Moving on after divorce can be tough, painful and heart-wrenching. It can also be cathartic, refreshing and life-affirming. Your ability to enjoy life post divorce depends on your willingness to take the steps necessary to begin a new chapter in life.
Some people find it hard to forgive their former spouses after a divorce. There may have been issues of infidelity, loss of trust and betrayal. Many people don’t believe that the former spouse deserves their forgiveness. It is important to remember, however, that forgiveness is not for the other person, it is for yourself. Holding feelings of resentment will only hurt you and make it harder for you to move on. Forgive your former partner, and yourself.
Holding onto the pain of divorce can seem safe and familiar, but it will make it impossible to move on. Let go of the pain and welcome new experiences. Allow yourself to be happy with your life and the new people in it. This does not mean that you have forgotten the hurt, just that you have not allowed it to hold you back.
One of the most challenging parts of divorce is mourning the life you had planned with your former spouse. It may be tempting to try to re-create that life with a new partner or with your children. This can cause you frustration and ultimately, resentment. Divorce is an opportunity to start anew with new traditions, new routines and a new attitude.
After a marital split, some people confine themselves to their own small space, keeping the world out. While this may seem safe, it can cut you off from the support system that you will need. It can also make it harder for you to adjust and move on.
When it comes to divorce, the key to enjoying life is to find ways to move on quickly.