First step: Breathe. Everything is going to be okay. Although you’ve probably heard that before, it’s true. Whatever pain you’re currently feeling, whatever burden you’re currently carrying, will subside. You may or may not feel surprised, but whatever you’re feeling, just know that you aren’t going through this alone. Find support from friends, family members, online communities, or therapists. Help is available.
Second step: Talk with your spouse. Speaking with your spouse doesn’t mean begging your spouse to be with you. If you’re not ready to speak with him or her, speaking with a trusted friend or family member may be the better option for your situation.
Marriage counselling may help. Just because your spouse asks for a divorce doesn’t necessarily mean that a divorce will occur. If there are some issues the two of you need to work on, counselling may resolve these issues. However, after speaking with your spouse, a temporary separation or divorce may be the answer.
Third step: Find an attorney. Although some people do not use an attorney, divorce is complicated and there are many complex issues that arise. An attorney can provide you with valuable information and assistance.
Ask your friends or family members for referrals. Search the Internet. You may want to litigate, mediate, or collaborate. On the other hand, you may have no idea. That’s okay. Speaking with an attorney can help ease your mind.
Fourth step: Be patient and be confident. It’s easy to let yourself go after being told that your spouse wants a divorce. However, it’s important to show him or her, and more importantly yourself, that you can do this. Divorce can be challenging, but it can also be liberating. Use this time to discover a new and better version of yourself. It may not always be easy, but with the support of your friends, family, and attorney, the divorce process may turn out to be less stressful than you think.
There is a way to get divorced that will:
1. Avoid court and the loss of privacy, control and uncertainty associated with the traditional process
2. Protect your children and their feelings from the trauma of a court battle,
3. Ensure that everyone’s financial interests are met so that you can finally move on with your life and embrace a new beginning,
4. Save money and time while helping you and your spouse find creative solutions that meet both of your needs.